First love

First love

Theoretically first love can happen in any age or not happen at all. But most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. For an adult his/her own high school problems and the problems of their children seem very funny, silly and simple especially compared with all the difficulties of adult life. Somehow we forget how tragic and full of drama life and relationships were than in our adolescence.

Than a teenager falls in love and it happens for the first time he/she feels all it’s ups and downs for the first time either. In that age we mostly enjoy ourselves and study the new emotions inside than show much interest for the inner world of our first boy/girlfriend.



Once we start to show interest to the persons of the other sex and a little later instinctively choose our first love. The relationships between two sexes will interest and trouble us during all our future life but these first steps are always the most difficult and for some of us turn to be very painful. Teenager has a growing and changing body that he/she hasn’t started to understand yet and a delicate soul which is so easy to hurt.



Adults very often don’t take this first affection for serious, they may laugh at it, preach, tell their children that they are too young to really feel anything, that his or her object isn’t a good pair for him or her, they may try obey them stop seeing their boy/girlfriend. This is all very wrong. No one can stop anybody from falling in love especially when it’s so beckoning with the novelty. Wise adults can only try to support their young comrade to pass this complicated with the least wounds and hurt. The feelings of adolescents are as changeable as their mood. So the first love usually goes very soon after it comes. The mission of people around is to show that it’s not the end of world and that a teenager is not alone, that there still stay people who love him/her and in their love he/her can’t be sure. The first love is only the first lesson to learn but it like Alphabet stays in the basic of the whole future relationships of a human.



Very often we cherish these memories a lot, sometimes idealise them, remember the first love as something very innocent and fragile. If something went wrong than some people may have some problems with starting new relationships, they may even achieve come serious complexes that will be spoiling their relationships all the time.



But there’s no such low that tells we all fall in love for the first time in our adolescence if not with our coevals, than with our favourite teaches, famous actors and pop-stars. Yes, teenagers searching an ideal love object in the real life and not finding it there can turn to TV-screen heroes, or persons who are elder and seem wiser and more experienced when the people of the same with them age. Of cause most adults don’t take these kid’s falling for them too serious. It passes as does the hysterical passion for the pop-stars. But still some people don’t fall in love at this age of first love at all, they have some boy/girlfriends in order not to differ from others, to satisfy curiosity and a booty call, they may really like the coevals they have relationships with, but still it nothing serious. For those people their first love may come later, and the feeling will be the same new and surprising for them as for the teenagers. But Bernard Show said that if you haven’t fallen in love till you’re forty you already shouldn’t do it after.

Love Addiction

Love Addiction

The Ancient Greeks already described “mania” as one of the forms of love. It’s an obsessive, ecstatic and long-lasting love. It usually exaggerates the meaning and the importance of the feeling. Very often it leads to strong emotional shocks and dramas. It seeks for the total possession and control over partner, although it can be heroic and self-sacrificing. “Mania” stays very strong even when it has no reciprocity, it can be blindly faithful. Nowadays this form of love exists but in has become less dramatic.


Love addiction is when we say I love him/her too much, I can’t let him/her go, it’ when we are ready to suffer, see our love being abused but still ready to forgive everything because of a terrible fear to loose the one we love.


Some people get adducted to love as the other get addicted to drugs or alcohol. It’s when their partner becomes the centre and the meaning of their whole life, when his or life becomes their life and everything they turn to do is to satisfy their partner’s need and to solve his/her problem. Work, friends, hobbies, personal interests – nothing of that matter for a love addicted person more. And in the basics of it all lays not the love but the fear that can take it’s roots in early childhood when a future love addict didn’t get enough love and attention and now he/she’s trying to fill that space being very scared to return to that loneliness of a child.


In this “mania” relationships there’s very often nothing left to call love, these relationships don’t bring comfort, pleasure and support as they’re supposed to do, but only pain and sufferings. And love addicts may even realise it but the don’t have strength to leave. An addicted to love person is ready to do almost everything if it can be necessary or useful to his/her partner. There is nothing too expensive, unpleasant or taking too much time if it make him/her happy.


These love addicts can be very nervous and depressive, also they are willing to gain total control over the partner. The reason is that they aren’t enough self-confidence and those possessive relationship can be an attempt to prove they are worth something.


Most of all love addicts are scared that the relationship will be ruined because it seems that won’t be able to live without their partner so they are ready to bear selfishness, indifference, cruelty, disgrace. More other those possessed with love try to convince themselves that all this “minuses” are temporary and that their partner is just having hard time at the moment, but after it’s over he/she will se everything that has been done for them and will turn to be very thankful.

Love addicts also may think thanks to their childhood that such sick relations with an indifferent partner is the only they are worth. They may ignore all the good people around them that are willing to give their love and attention.


By the way it’s women who suffer from love addiction more than men. Addictive men usually become obsessed with their job or hobby. The worst variant is drugs and alcohol. And the addictive women usually choose such men as a cross to berry.


The only way to get rid of such a love addiction is to fight all the fears and to quit that obsessive and destructive relationships, to prove yourself that you’re worth much more. Relationships are never supposed to be a one-way street, love is giving but normally it gets much in return. The problem is that the love addiction can be a very serious problem repeating from one relationships to the other so that a person isn’t even able to solve it without professional help.

Are you in love?

Are you in love?

Usually if you ask yourself “am I in love?’ it means you’re not, because when you’re fallen in love you already have no questions, this feeling is to obvious to leave any doubts. So it’s more reasonable to count the consequences of it than to look for the signs.

You can’t stop thinking of your object, he/she stays on your mind when you’re working, spending time with friends, jogging in the morning or relaxing in evening. The vision of your object is haunting your mind like a ghost and it never works when you tell yourself not to think of him or her. You remember all the time spent together, every single word, gesture and look.


Lovesickness can be compered with feather: you’re either flying high, all filled with enthusiasm and energy, that when people around start to wonder if you’re in love or you’re deeply depressed, indifferent, nervous, don’t see in life any bright sides. No third variant is possible. You sleep as a baby or suffer from insomnia. You shine and think you’re the best or feel miserable and unattractive. You are afraid to leave phone for a moment because you sure that’ll be the moment he or she will be calling.


Nothing makes a person happier when he/she realises that the feeling is mutual. People in love look better, feel better and attract more attention from the people of the other sex than they are in their normal state. When you are in love single look of your object, anything that gives you the slightest hope – and you’re already somewhere above sky.


Falling in love without reciprocity seems to be a tragedy and the end of the world. Of cause it’s not and it will pass but try to tell the one who is so unfortunately in love! Gloomy face, giving up all the everyday duties or on the opposite trying to get rid of the feeling in energetic activity – these are the signs of person in love either. Some people just can’t deal with the intense of emotions. People with unbalanced psychics can even have some suicidal ideas. But this cases are rare.

Men Cheating

Men cheating

Why do men lie? There are many reasons. The lie because it’s in their blood, because they think that the truth will hurt, because they don’t think it’s necessary to tell the whole thing with the details, because they want to seem better than they are, because they want to make women love them, because they are sure it’ll be better for everybody and so on. After all “why does he lie” – is not a question of that big importance. But a woman should become worried if a man starts to tell the truth. This usually means that something’s going wrong. A woman should find out the reasons for that sudden sincerity to know what to do.

When we love we are used not to see the flows of our partner or not to show that we see them. If fact those flows mean very little when there’s love in the relationships. But when it’s gone all those unpleasant details in the character, appearance or behavior start to annoy us tremendously especially because they have become so obvious after a long period of not noticing them. That’s when men start pointing on the defaults of their women in the most rude and unpleasant way. If a man doesn’t love a woman anymore he doesn’t care whether his words hurt, if he doesn’t like something he speaks about it as it is just because he can’t any reasons to stay silent or to lie about it anymore. For any woman it’s better to leave because any relationships are supposed to bring care and attention but not permanent criticism and discomfort. You may of course stay, swallow your pride, watch your self-confidence fading away, feel yourself miserable and etc. But ask yourself is that really what you want?


But of course a woman isn’t meant to quit any relationships after a couple of critical notices in her address. The reasons why her man speaks the unpleasant truth can be different. Maybe he’s simply fed up with one of her very annoying habits. He loves her and he tried not to pay attention to that feature or habit, but he’s a human being and his patience isn’t eternal. So if he burst out once that doesn’t mean that will repeat over and over again. Probably he’s already apologized a million times and said that he never wanted to hurt her. Well in this case a woman should start looking closer at herself if she doesn’t want that explosion if truth to repeat.

Neither relationships are possible without compromises. And can love make us better if we don’t want to collaborate with it?

How to keep friendship?

How to keep friendship?

It's one thing to start a friendship, it's quite another to maintain it, to keep it, to stay on what Lewis called "the same secret path." Even strong friendships require watering or they shrivel up and blow away. That's why George Bernard Shaw touched an exposed nerve when we read the words he scribbled to his friend Archibald Henderson: "I have neglected you shockingly of late. This is because I have had to neglect everything that could be neglected without immediate ruin, and partly because you have passed into the circle of intimate friends whose feelings one never dreams of considering."

It's so easy to take good friends for granted. And in a sense, we should. Like a comfortable pair of gloves, old friends wear well. But friendships that suffer from busyness and overfamiliarity can't afford to be neglected too long. They need renewal. If you want and need to keep true friendship alive and well, please, consider and think over a list of the most important qualities offered to help you. Probably it will help you to understand why you and your best friend haven't called up for ages, why you're getting embarrassed while being asked "Whom are you going to have fun this weekend with?" Like Shaw, you may neglect your intimate friends from time to time, but if you fail to cultivate these qualities—loyalty, forgiveness, honesty, and dedication—you can't expect to keep true friends.


Loyalty

The quality that tops the list in survey after survey of what people appreciate most about their friends is loyalty - support that you always give to someone because of your feelings of duty and love towards them.


Harry Truman's secretary of state, Dean Acheson, caused quite a stir when he visited his friend Alger Hiss in prison. Hiss was a convicted traitor, and it was bad politics to have any association with him. But when prudent politicians condemned Acheson publicly, Acheson simply said, "A friend does not forsake a friend just because he is in jail." That's loyalty.


The famous maxim that "a friend in need is a friend indeed" is not the entire story of loyalty, however. A friend in triumph may be even harder to find. Isn't it easier to be a savior than a cheerleader for our friends? It takes twenty-four-karat loyalty for a friend to soar alongside us when we are flying high rather than to bring us down to earth. Loyal friends not only lend a hand when you're in need; they applaud your successes and cheer you on without envy when you prosper.


Forgiveness

As important as loyalty is, our friendships don't always have it. Enter forgiveness. Every friend you'll ever have will eventually disappoint you. Count on it. That doesn't mean that every offense of a friend requires forgiveness; some slights need only be overlooked and forgotten. Winston Churchill's mother, Jennie, understood this when she said, "Treat your friends as you do your pictures, and place them in their best light."


Too many good relationships fade because some slight - real or imagined - cancels it out. Some people pout, brood, or blow up if their friend is not speedy enough in returning a phone call or if they are not included in a social event. They set such high standards for the relationship that they're constantly being disappointed. They can't let little things go, every minor lapse becomes a betrayal.


By the way, forgiveness is a two-way street. Unless you are a saint, you are bound to offend - intentionally or unintentionally - every friend deeply at least once in the course of time, and if the relationship survives it will be because your friend forgives, the friends we keep the longest are the friends who forgave us the most. And the essence of true friendship is knowing what to overlook.


Honesty

Honesty is a prerequisite to the true friends' relationship. "Genuine friendship cannot exist where one of the parties is unwilling to hear the truth," says Cicero, "and the other is equally indisposed to speak it." Does this require brutal honesty? Not exactly. It requires honesty that is carefully dealt in the context of respect. In the absence of respect, you see, honesty is a lethal weapon. Perhaps that's what caused Cicero to add, "Remove respect from friendship and you have taken away the most splendid ornament it possesses." Honesty is not only expressed in words; it means being authentic.


True friends aren't afraid to be honest and they aren't afraid to be themselves. True friends follow Emerson's advice: "Better be a nettle in the side of your friend than his echo." Translation: If you are afraid of making enemies, you'll never have true friends.


Dedication

When was the latest you and your best friend met? Dedication refers to the ability of two people to influence each other's plans, thoughts, actions, and emotions, to spend time and effort on friendship, to give up something important or valuable for sake of friendship. Think about it.


Back when you are a kid, the hours spent with friends were too numerous to count. Contemporary life, with its tight schedules and crowded appointment books, however, has forced most friendships into something requiring a good deal of intentionally and pursuit just to keep them going.


Of course, dedication becomes most salient in times of crisis. When a friend's emotional bottoming out, for example, means canceling a date to provide a shoulder of support. That's what friends are for. So don't complain about having fair-weather friends if you are unwilling to be inconvenienced.

Personal sacrifice. Selfless devotion. Commitment. These are the noble qualities dedication requires.

Women choosing Men

Women choosing men

Who’s choosing whom? We are used to think that it’s men who choose. They usually first start an acquaintance with a woman, ask he for a phone number, call her first, offer to go out together and etc. The most obvious sign, as it seems, that it’s a woman who waits for a man to make her a proposal. At that is the order verified by ages.

Still the scientists claim that the situation can be a little different in the reality. They say that the woman makes her choice more carefully and attentively than a man. She’s more capricious and fastidious while searching for a partner. A woman looks first at man’s social status, his financial affairs. She need not a person to watch and admire but a partner to rely on. Men as everybody knows it love with the eyes. So the beauty and the sexuality of a woman is more important for. Of course later he will have to deal with her character but he isn’t looking that far while a woman is from the beginning orientating on a long-lasting relationships. By the way there’s also an opinion that women are better socially adapted than men.


Both men and men claim that the character of a potential partner is more important for them than the appearance, but on the first date men still get attracted with the beauty of women while women are trying to find out who that man is really are.


The explanation of this lays in the evolutionary history. Women were risking much more when choosing a partner and had to be more attentive making her choice. After having sex man could always get up and leave and a woman could get pregnant. So a woman is historically orientated on a choosing a man to build a family with. Nowadays the situation is of course quite different, women are more independent and the process of conception is put under control but the biological nature of the humans is progressing slower than their socials one so the instincts still play a considerable role in our lives. So a woman on a first date probably isn’t searching for a husband or any serious relations at all, but unconsciously she’s valuing any man she sees if he is valid for creating a family.

Body language

Body language

Before one starts learning this interesting and thrilling issue, he/she should get rid of such prejudices, like nearly all people have, for example: the idea that all women are chatter-boxes, or that men refrain from touching other people. Now it is high time to come up to one of the most mysterious languages in the world – body language.

First of all let’s speak about gestures of domination for men.

Imagine the situation: a man – employer interviews a woman that applies for the job, he is constantly bending brows and even doesn’t look at his applicant, making the lady think she won’t get this position; but in couple of hours he will phone her and inform that she is accepted. What is the secret? Why do people sometimes try to mislead their interlocutors by wrong gestures and body movements? The good knowing of body language will save you from mistakes and misunderstandings. Sometimes the interlocutor wants to secure himself from offences or even worse disappointments in this way.

Personal space and body position


When a man places himself in the room, he wants to show his dominating position, that is why he occupies more space when he stands or sits; sometimes he sits, spreading out his legs. During the conversation he fidgets and changes the body position more often then a woman does. Also he usually prefers to stay distantly from the interlocutor, so that to observe and control the situation; while listening he prefers to recline. When he talks and stands, he prefers to come closer to a speaker, sometimes penetrating into personal space and confirming his predominating position.


Arm movements

Men’s arm movements are usually more brisk and angular; they keep their fingers together, or, on the contrary, point their fingers to an opponent. Men’s facial gestures are more reserved and express less warmth.

Women’s gestures are lighter and more flexible. During the conversation women bend to a speaker, while men bend the head to the side. All these signs show the positive atmosphere of the conversation, but if the situation is negative, a man is likely to look more steadily at the interlocutor, and a woman will remove her eyes.


Speech and intonation of men and women

According to the researches made, monologues are more typical for men. Moreover, men prefer using strict and direct formulations, they are less talkative then women, they will hardly use such elegant phrases like “ it would be extremely kind of you”, “ it was incredible”, “we have spent unforgettable evening” and so on. They hardly ever use the phrases like “ I hope” or “ I feel like”. Such phrases like “always”, “ never”, “ nobody”, “everybody”, “all” are more common for male lexicon. Men would rather not rise intonation at the end of the phrase. Even their requests look more like commands. Men use slang expressions and strong language oftener, than the weaker sex. Their sounds are more loud and brisk, but monotonous, than sounds in female speech.

How we act

Men are rarely pay compliments, but joke more; women, on the contrary, make compliments to the interlocutor, but will hardly joke. Men adore speaking about their achievements and successes. Women are not fond of speaking much about their abilities, and this behavior can be frequently treated by man as a lack or even absence of talents. Men are more skeptical. Women bear spite longer and burst into tears oftener, if they are offended; men, on the contrary, begin to cry and raise their voice. In the course of debates a woman would appellate to her past experience, while a man would keep his mind on present problem. After the quarrel women usually apologize, though they don’t concede, but simply regret about the quarrel. Women are more sensitive than men, and can be easily hurt by rude and impolite words. Men face difficulties, while speaking about their inner feelings.


All above-listed facts lead roots from difference in process of girls’/ boys’ upbringing. Problem in communication is nothing more but typical behavior for the representatives of this or that sex. Considering this, on may avoid quarrels and unpleasant situations in future.















 

Men & relationships

Men & relationships

A man can find a million and one other things to do rather than sit down with his partner and talk about their relationship. Is it so because men don’t care about them? No, it’s just that the words “relationship discussion” mean different things to men and women. And not only these words…

What do men really want out of life? Do they really want to get married? Or do they just want to have sex with whomever until they get old? Or do they have to feel alone before they make the step into a relationship?






There isn’t any one “model” that fits all men or all women. Everyone is different and is motivated by different things. Yes, some men want to get married and yes, some men just want to have a lot of sexual partners throughout the rest of their lives. These are both valid goals, but it depends on the individual.




However, it does seem that marriage and commitment isn't as attractive to most men as it is to most women, doesn’t it?








So, what is the difference?



Men struggle every single day to meet the goals that are imposed on them by society. Men's impositions have been around for a long time and are actually the fabric of our society and culture. Women's are more "self-imposed". For example, men are expected to hold down steady jobs, provide for themselves and their families and to do everything (including in relationships) with "honor".






That means being up-front and direct. But women are under no such obligation and are never up-front about their intentions in relationships. They have all sorts of tools they use to get men to expose their agenda's up front without having to do so themselves!






With commitment, consider that men and women view this very differently too.






While women view commitment as security, future, family, love, closeness, support and many other "good" things, men often view commitment (and likewise, marriage) as responsibility, stress, loss of freedom, loss of choice, a life of toiling to meet the demands of that relationship, and many other "bad" things! In fact, these are very common feelings among most men.

What turns women on

What turns women on

What thing do usually turn a woman on? There’s a well-known list of such things like beautiful body, low sexual voice, strong arms and etc. But there are some not ordinary things about men that turn women on. So what are those singularities that get some women excited and the other women surprised that the first are excited?

Do you like man’s first name or surname? You think that it sounds so magically beautiful that the one who bears it can’t be an ordinary man, and everything he does is supposed to be fantastic.



He’s got a foreign name, an aristocratic surname or something and you have just a name or just a surname probably the same with thousands of other people. Probably you expect that this man will get you attached to something that you’ve been always deprived of. Well in the most cases is not much better or worse than others by go on try it yourself to get sure.





Maybe you loose your head when you see some magical combination of figures in his phone, car or any other number?



These are exactly the figures you like, it must be a sign of destiny that he’s appeared on your life way. Probably you are a fan of numerology, you think that mathematics has no idea of the real importance of numbers and figures it operates with, probably they’re the signs of upper forces making living in this world a little less complicated. Well it’s up to you to believe but don’t close the eyes on the other but the numbers features of that guy.



Do you like his signature or hand writing? You aren’t the only one. The explanation of this singularity is rather simple. You are sure that the way he right tells a lot about his true character and that you can read that character in his signature. You may go and try to check up if any of your versions is true.



Does his foreign accent, profession, hobby or any exotics thing he keeps, likes and does? You are definitely a hunter for exotics. You are probably displeased with your own life and think it’s one of a kind, very ordinary and boring. He brings new emotions and impressions into you life, he’s like a breath of a fresh air to you.


That’s very understandable but be careful with the crocodile he keeps in his bathroom.



Do you like the defects of his speech or his bandaged arm, leg or probably a broken nose? These are the mothers instincts speaking in you. You want to take care of him, you pity him.

Maybe it’s his glasses, earring, any other piercing or accessories that really turn you on? You start feeling hot at the moment the things a man with the pierces nipple can do in bed. Well this is a kind of fetishism but for you it’s so really exciting. Probably your either like all the romantic attributes of sex like candelas and aromatic oil, cream and strawberries, playing role games.



Or do you like that he’s left-handed or the shape of his ears or hands? Maybe that’s just a type of man you prefer, you are very original in the criterions of your choice but that your right – some women can’t resist blue-eyed blondes and that’s considered normal. Maybe you think that all the left-handed people are outstanding people and nothing turns you on more than the thought of how talented that man is. Maybe you had some man with the same shape of ears before and only following the signals of your past at the present moment. It’s only you who can tell for sure.



Do you like the way he’s doing hard physical work or on the opposite maybe you like that he looks and smells like candy? It’s normal for all women to get excited from the men who look masculine, and that’s how he looks when she chops and saws firewood for example. A candy-man is a type of a feminine man and very possible a gay-men. Or maybe he just a metrosexual that looks after himself. Then a woman should decide if a man who spends on the cosmetics even more money than she does is so attractive for her.



One more case is when you like a man doing housework. Of course it’s not a apron on him that is so exiting for you but the care and love you see in this will to help.



Summing it all up one could say that some things about men that turn some women up are really singular and a little bit freaky, others are quite understandable, but all those of them can be called right in case they make a woman feel happy and satisfied.

Clues to attract a Man

Clues to attract a Man

What makes a woman attractive to a man?




In fact every woman sends out signals to men. Most men can detect and read your signals in a matter of seconds. The first pulses you emit are your dress and your body language.


It’s incredibly easy for a woman to attract attention from men. Just wear skin-tight, thigh-length, revealing clothing. You’ll get lots of male attention. But will it be the kind of attention you want? Fishermen insist that the fish you catch is determined by the bait you use.


Would you like to make yourself more appealing to a man who will be attracted to you as a person and not as an object? If so, remember these tips to keep in mind when trying to attract a man.


Confidence is the number one attraction. Being more confident with yourself and your surroundings will attract someone that is equal to you. You will also notice that more people are drawn to you.


Appearance is also a big issue. Your appearance and body language may catch his attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a man's interest.

Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression. If he sees you when you are at your worst then he will not want to look a second time.


Give a man a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that haunts his memory, soft clothes that he yearns to touch and a smile that he can't get out of his mind. And don’t forget to leave a little something to the imagination. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a man.


Make him feel important by focusing your full attention on him. Listen intently to what he has to say and respond with respect for his opinions, laugh at his jokes no matter how lama they are, take an interest in his interests.


And finally – don't try and be something you are not. He will be falling for a false idol and will not want to know you when he sees the real you. Let him know you're different from all the rest. Emphasize your originality through your personality, intelligence and behavior.

Tips to Win Her Heart

Tips to Win Her Heart

A woman spends a great deal of money and even more time on her appearance to carry a proud name of a good-looking woman. A man is called a handsome one, if he looks a little bit different from gorilla. Well, that can be a bit of exaggeration.

Females like it when males are strong and masculine, but they still want a man, not an animal. So in order to attract a woman, men have some work to do.

Some men consider a beard to be an integral part of their identity or image. But these are few. The most of men shave. Could they just do it regularly? Women, regularly removing hair from much larger (than two cheeks and chin) a square of their bodies, can’t get the reason.

Some people suppose a bristle is sexy. Probably it is, but not that popular kind of a “haven’t seen a mirror for three days” bristle. By the way all women like men, who are frequent guests in the bathroom. Bad smell and dirty hair oily or with dandruff are the most unpleasant flows in anyone’s appearance. They guarantee bad impression from the very first sight and can push away anyone, not only a pretty woman. Thanks God modern cosmetological industry offers a great list of products to keep anyone clean and fresh.

The same should be done with teeth, hands and nails. Didn’t our mothers tell us how to deal with all this? Soft moisturized skin will take any woman to ecstasy. But that’s already wishful thinking; let’s stop with the necessary minimum.

Should we mention clothes? Of course, you may hit her with your style, but if a man has any doubts of his perfect taste – though usually he doesn’t – widely known classics will do.


Now let’s tell a few words about bad habits. This isn’t anti-tobacco campaign, but everyone who smokes must care about people not bearing cigarette’s smoke. There hardly exists a woman that will like smoke rings, even of the most round shape, flying in her face. Very few females would like yellow fingers and teeth of a smoker, the hair and the clothes’ tobacco smell. Nobody expects a man to give up this habit for woman’s pleasure, but he should consider her comfort.

Men drink alcohol in different portions. The question is only in amount and frequency. If a man is an expert in French vine – that is a plus, but if an expert in being the bars last client – he shouldn’t count on great popularity among women.

These are some very general rules. In fact, they are useful for any man, who wants to make a pleasant impression on people. The greater work should be done to win one’s heart. All women are different, so one can’t be quite sure what will or won’t work in every single case.


All women do love flowers and little unexpected gifts, love being treated like ladies, love care and attention. Almost every female – exception are radical feminists – likes the doors being opened in front of her; chairs being offered as she walks in; careful hands helping her take off the coat, and so on. Each and every woman can listen, but truly love being listened to with natural understanding. Also she likes it when a man shares her interests and dreams. Taking each of these steps, a male comes closer and closer to win her heart. If he can’t do all these very difficult things, he at least can try or act as if he really understands and listens.


Just remember about the famous women’s intuition that will sooner or later get through the fake. Don’t pretend, be yourself, be honest -and that can surprisingly work.